Confession: I get rid of my kids toys when they aren't looking to save space and clutter.
Okay so you think I'm evil, practical, quite possibly a genius. Whatever you are thinking, I assure you I've thought it too. How can I be so mean? But, my kids have a lot of toys. I mean a lot of toys. There are toys that don't see any action for weeks on end. It only gets worse in the summer. Everyone is outside most of the time, and the toys just sit on shelves, in toy boxes, in piles on the floor, taunting me. My house is in total disarray. And something has got to be done about it.
It's not like I've gone into this lightly. I don't just pull toys out of their little hands and hurl them into the trash. I don't pry Barbies right from their little death-grips in the middle of a game of "Barbie gets eaten by a giant horse." (What do you mean my kids have issues?) There is a time to purge what you have, and I include the kids stuff in that as well. We always donate anything that is not broken or in major disrepair to local charities. I think it is healthy. I think it is a good lesson in compassion for them. I think it is necessary for my sanity.
You see, we got new carpets yesterday in the family room and playroom. We had to move everything out of those rooms and pile it all up in the living room and my husbands office. Wow! It's time like these you realize how much useless crap you really do have. It makes me sad in a way to know that we have so much stuff that never even gets touched, and their are people in the world who have absolutely nothing. Of course my children, who are oh so deprived, are not quick to part with anything. "I know we haven't played with that doll in 2 years, but I was just about to play with her I swear." Ummm... I doubt it. Or "you can't throw that away, I've been looking everywhere for that." Uh-huh, sure you were.
So, here's what I do. I highly recommend this system if you are feeling apprehensive about the big heave-ho. As I was going through all of the toys, dolls, games, stuffed junk, etc. I immediately put back everything that I know they adore and play with daily. Then I look for things that have not been played with in ages, is broken, missing parts, etc. I bag the broken stuff up to go to the trash. The good stuff goes in a bag for Goodwill or Purple Heart. Then there is the questionable stuff. Things you'd really like to see go. Like 800,000 little Polly Pockets shoes. But, you can't be sure this won't cause a major meltdown in the days to come. Here is where I've perfected the throwaway system. I bag the stuff up and put it in the closet for 30 days. If it is not asked for, missed, or whined about for those 30 days, it goes.
Now, don't get me wrong. On day 32 or 33 one of them will inevitably come looking for whatever it is that you tossed. There will likely be a few tears, perhaps even a tantrum. But, this is where you have to tell them the truth, that Daddy did it, that elves came and took the stuff away. You can get as creative as you want here. This is where my involvement ends. Trust me though, the few tears they shed will be more than worth the amount of shelf, closet, or floor space you can reclaim from this little exercise.
Do you know of any good charitable organizations that take donations of used toys, books, clothes, etc? Comment here and tell me about it. And in the spirit of all this MommyFest good giveaway love, I have another giveaway to add. A beautiful handmade swarovski crystal beaded bracelet like this one. 
I'll have my daughter draw a winner from all commenters when BlogFest is all over. Good luck.

I'll have my daughter draw a winner from all commenters when BlogFest is all over. Good luck.



















25 comments:
Check out your area for a domestic violence shelter. Lots of times when a woman/mother make a quick get away from a dangerous situation so she and her children will be in a safe shelter she doesn't have time to grab the things she would like to have for the children and she ends up having to make do with what the shelter has which is usually very minimal. Most shelters are open for donations specifically for situations such as this.
I toss toys all the time when they aren't looking. I have a box I keep in the garage and when we go to preschool, I usually drop it off then - before they find it in the garage. The hard part is when they get gifts, which is really all their toys since I hardly buy them, but I have come to the realization that the gift is not equivalent to the love of the giver.
I do this when the kids (biggies) are in school otherwise bring on the waterworks, the pleas, and the whines that they still play with that crusted-over toy hidded in the depths of their closet.
Also, see if the school library or public library would take book donations. Those unfortunately I cannot part with.
My girlfriends and I weed through our closets and toss out our husband's clothes that we can't stand! Funny thing...they never seem to notice!
Churches, non-profit organizations and shelters are great places to start for donations. Schools too...I work as a school social worker and my school, which serves only student with disabilities, is collecting dresses for our first ever prom! So fun!
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I do this about once every month. I know my son never even misses the toys. He has that many and they were all gifts from other family members.
I donate to the salvation Army sometimes and also to our local
women's and children's shelter.
It makes me feel better that it's going for a good cause... to another kid that doesn't have much.
I love how candid this blog is. It's nice to learn a little about you. I am just stopping by from Mommyfest to say hi. Have a wonderful day.
~Emily
I love your cross-outs. They make me laugh.
My kids have so many damn toys they could start their own toy store, because they have too many rich relatives. Think those relatives could spot a true financial emergency and pay for a tummy tuck for me so that I don't dress like a bag lady? Oh, no! More toys! Bury the children in toys!
Check out the local pregnancy resource center. This is a good place to donate baby items, clothes, diapers, and toys.
We also donate to my daughters preschool. They are a non profit that runs a childrens program during the summer.
Been there, done that. I use Goodwill and several charity thrift stores when I need to donate. We are getting ready to have new carpet installed, and you can be sure that a lot of toys will not be going back into that bedroom when we are finished.
I think this is genius and something I do too. My son is a few months shy of 2, so it is a little easier. He forgets he ever had X toy. With gifts that we don't want in our house, I hide them as soon as we get home, and I try to keep things in the package. I just sold an awful Spiderman loud-ass riding toy at a yard sale the other week. Libraries with children's sections will probably be happy to have quiet toys.
Like a previous post set, the domestic violence shelter in our area is always looking for toys! I know the children unfortunately have to come in sometimes in the middle of the night and well, that extra teddy someone dropped off can make sleeping in a "different" bed a little easier.
I also am a member of ReUseIt in my area and people post on there all the time. Some people actually look for items as I know there is a woman in my area that her son is the manager of an orphanage in Africa so she sends care packages his way with little goodies she can get for the children.
Great post! I totally plan on purging stuff when the time is right but as we plan to have another baby I'm compelled to keep EVERYTHING. It's so hard, our closets are filling up!
I give them to the daycare and to the afterschool program, too. They are always looking for new items to enterain the kids. Especially dress-up clothes at the daycare -- they also like to have men's clothes for the boys to dress up in.
I usually donate them to an orphanage. You can check out some in the area and see which one seems like they could use a little more help :)
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I've thought about "cycling" toys... packing some up, leaving some out, then rotating them...
Love the bracelet!!
BTW, there's a typo in your URL @ MommyFest (where you mentioned the 2nd giveaway) and it directs to another site (blogpsot.com - weird how it did that). You might want to post another note about it with the correct link in case they don't click your name. :)
My boss does that with her daughters toys too. I have a feeling I will end up doing that as well. places you can donate them are Women's shelters, goodwill, red cross (i know the local one does take it)
I love the 30 days idea! I look for local women's shelters, which can be harder to find than it sounds as they don't always publicize their locations. Salvation Army is another one I lean toward
I have given books to my son's school library (they were greatly appreciated) and I have given toys to his daycare (also greatly appreciated - they gave me a free week!) Clothes and other items usually go to Purple Heart because they pick up at your house. I am a single mom and I also ask around to churches to find another single mom in need and see if my items fit with anything they need.
We give all our everything except books to the salvation army thrift shop and books go to the library. I will NOT throw away books!
I usually give any items to the local charity thrift store. I've also heard women's shelters and some children's hospitals are happy to receive them also.
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I try to do a quarterly "purge" of my girls' rooms! We donate to Goodwill, Salvation Army or we have a local center here in town called Grace Resources that help the hungry/homeless of the valley that we live in. They have their own "thrift center" that takes donations to help run the operation! Thanks for offering this!
~Tanya
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For books, they go to the local library. For most everything else, it goes to Goodwill, Amvets or Salvation Army. My kids and I love thrift stores..for donating and for finding useful treasures.
Maybe you could donate them to hospitals for kids who have lengthy stays there. To give them something to do well they are there.
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I Love this blog!!! Oh,and I too go thru my kids toys. I actually lure them upstairs with toys while I rummage thru their downtstairs treasures.
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